The following list of questions, and the description that follows of
"The Problem" is from a Sexaholics Anonymous brochure. You can
reach SA at PO Box 111910 Nashville, TN 37222; or look in the white pages
for a group in your area. If you are concerned about 'going' public' by
showing up at a meeting to further decide if you are a sexaholic, know
that almost everyone in the room had or is going through the same feelings.
You are not alone in just about any experience or feeling you have had
when you are in an SA group. You can also find a counselor who specializes
in sexual compulsion, your spiritual advisor, or another anonymous group,
such as Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. About this
kind of 'test': there is no right answer or score taken. You do not have
to answer every question in the affirmative to come to the conclusion you
might be a sex addict. This test is to help you look at your behavior in
the light of your well-being: does your sexual activity promote your well-being
or hurt it? -
Aumele
Test Yourself
Have you ever thought you needed help for your sexual thinking or behavior?
That you'd be better off if you didn't keep "giving in"?
That sex or stimuli are controlling you?
Have you ever tried to stop or limit doing what you felt was wrong
in your sexual behavior?
Do you resort to sex to escape, relieve anxiety, or because you can't
cope?
Do you feel guilt, remorse or depression afterward?
Has your pursuit of sex become more compulsive?
Does it interfere with relations with your spouse?
Do you have to resort to images or memories during sex?
Does an irresistable impulse arise when the other party makes the overtures
or sex is offered?
Do you keep going from one "relationship" or lover to another?
Do you feel the "right relationship" would help you stop
lusting, masturbating, or being so promiscuous?
Do you have a destructive need - a desperate sexual or emotional need
for someone?
Does pursuit of sex make you careless for yourself or the welfare of
your family or others?
Has your effectiveness or concentration decreased as sex has become
more compulsive?
Do you lose time from work for it?
Do you turn to a lower environment when pursuing sex or stimuli?
Do you want to get away from the sex partner as soon as possible after
the act?
Although your spouse is sexually compatible, do you still masturbate
or have sex with others?
Have you ever been arrested for a sex-related offense?